ok heres the thing,i could be over reacting but..i think one of my daughters pals is being neglected,a few things have happened over the last couple of months which has made me think maybe alls not right at her house.The little girls always hungry (i feed her every night) her hairs always matted (i wash it dry it and put it up in bunches) her clothes are stinking (so i let her dress up in my kids clothes so i can give them a quick wash) shes never happy,does things to get attention,never wants to go home.this kid is 8,her mum died a few years back so its just ger her dad n 2 older brothers,the dad spends most nights in the pub and her brothers are teenagers so,well we all no what teenage boys are like.i could be seriously over reacting,maybe she just likes being at my house for female company. Cant really speak to any of my other neighbours as i dont have anything to do with them well dont want anything to do with them (i live in glasgows equvalent of shameless's chatsworth estate) so what do i do?apart from feeding her cleaning her and making sure she gets home ok,dont want to go down the whole social worker road as ive been trained in child protection i know what you can and cannot ask,and unfortunatly the questions i would like to ask i cant because its child protection laws.
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plymyphil
- 2008-03-16 @ 18:00:20
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trulyfab
- 2008-03-16 @ 18:22:01
thanks for your input,its appreciated
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plymyphil
- 2008-03-16 @ 18:25:51
No problem - will add you as a friend to follow the updates to this story.
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- 2008-03-20 @ 08:00:35
I hope she is ok i hate reading about these cases it brings back horrible memories of the very poor social services that we had to deal with when my sister died
It took over 4 years through the law courts to get custody of my niece from her drunken,junky of a father who had already lost his own kids twice (they kept giving him them back !!) in the end after his 5th time of abandoning her anf not collecting her from school we finally got custody. My point is that she good be very seriously neglected and I'm so happy that you help her, you are probably the only person in her life that makes her feel wanted, she could well be known to the social services but they are severely over worked and understaffed.
and mistakes are made, i hope you can keep helping her, and hope that social services recieve some notification that she is in trouble.
Take care and I really hope things improve for you and her, you are a wonderful caring person and I wish you and your family the very best for your future
If her mother died and her father is caring for her it's quite likely she's had involvement from some other agencies in her past. I would suggest the best thing to do would be to continue showing the love to her that your post demonstrates and also to drop a note to her school expressing your concerns. They would have to act on a note (annonymous if you like) expressing concerns but the reaction would not be heavy handed unless they already have a body of evidence. For somebody out of school to notice neglect the school themselves would then be under some pressure to respond as it is their duty to also document causes for concern.